Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Meeting and Dating Women

by Matt Buschbacher

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1. Trying to get a woman's approval

Have you ever watched a movie or seen in real life where a guy does everything for a girl... writes her poems, gives her things, does things for her and kisses up to her all the time and she completely isn't interested in him? Well, that's real life.

Men seem to think that getting a woman's approval is going to make her attracted to him. The problem is that women won't respect you if you don't have your own ideas and beliefs. Women are not attracted to men who will change their entire lives to fit hers or are always looking for her approval.

If you're trying too hard to win a girl over, you'll do exactly the opposite.

2. Talking about Boring Guy Topics

Most guys walk up to women and if they have anything to say at all, they talk about cars, jobs, college degrees and numerous other topics that women are completely not interested in.

If you want to bore a woman to death, this is a great technique. But, I think it might do you some good to learn how to talk to a girl in a way that is interesting for the both of you... not just you.

3. Trying to Convince a Woman that She Should Like Him

When guys realize that a woman doesn't like him, he typically will try to convince her that she should. The problem is that no matter how hard he tries, it's never going to work.

A woman's either going to be attracted to you or she isn't. No amount of whining, crying, pleading or begging is ever going to change that.

You have to know how to work with a girl's emotions so that she naturally is attracted to you every time.

4. He Lets Her Lead Everything

Women hate it when guys don't take the lead. It sends shivers down my spine every time I hear a conversation where the guy won't make a decision and the girl is trying to get him to. "Whatever you want to do" is a common horrifying phrase that I seem to hear a lot of guys saying.

It's okay for you to make the plans on where to go, what to do and how to dress. Women enjoy being able to relax and know that you're going to be able to take care of everything.

5. Giving Too Many Compliments Too Early

A really attractive woman will get approached a couple times a day from different men. The reality of it is that most men, although they think they're being really clever and saying something unique, all basically say the same thing to her.

The guy walks up, pretending he's not there to talk to her, then stands there for a couple of minutes waiting to get the courage to say something to her. Then, when he gets the courage to say something, it's probably at least half of the time a compliment on some type of physical feature she has.

There's nothing that is a bigger turnoff for women than being like every single other guy out there. You need to be different and unique. You need to be interesting...

6. Using Pick Up Lines

I don't know where pickup lines came from or if they actually worked at some point in time. However, I can tell you that they don't work anymore. I actually heard a guy walk up to a girl the other day and say, "If you were a sandwich at McDonald's, you'd be a McGorgeous!"

Needless to say, that isn't exactly the best thing to say to a woman. Most girls will laugh you away if you approach using pick up lines.

You can easily learn what will work when approaching women so you don't have to settle again for saying things that aren't going to work.

7. Trying to Impress a Woman

When a guy tries to impress a woman with money, clothes, and cars, it shows that he doesn't understand anything about women and that he's needy and materialistic.

I mean, there are definitely some women who are attracted to money. But, is that the type of relationship that you want anyway?

Honestly, I don't really have enough money to be walking around trying to buy women's affection and attention anyway.

Women are much more interested in who you are than what type of car you drive. And if you know what women are looking for in men, you can easily convey that and you'll attract women like a magnet.

8. Waiting for Women to Approach Them

It takes a lot more for a guy to be rejected. A girl actually has to tell him that she's not interested or do something else very obvious that shows she isn't interested in him.

Its completely different with girls. Girls don't typically approach men. They stand there and look at a man that they like and might even smile. When the guy makes eye contact back with the girl, she thinks her job is done.

If you don't approach her, she feels rejected. That's all it takes!

Its not a woman's job to approach men and its not very likely that they will. Especially beautiful women who are approached several times a day. Why would she ever approach a guy? She already has enough guys coming up to her a day telling her how beautiful she is and telling her she's "McGorgeous"

You need to approach women and learn how to do it the right way.

9. Being Too Serious

I love going to bars and seeing guys staring at women from across the room with a really serious look on their faces. Or, when a girl is talking to him, he's really serious and doesn't convey any humor or personality.

I also like seeing guys at the bar giving off some kind of pose that I guess is supposed to attracted women to them. I can tell you right now, this doesn't work. Believe me, I've tried it.

10. Continue Doing the Same Things that Don't Work

I've heard a phrase a million times that goes, "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got"

And what that really means is that if what you're doing right now isn't getting you the success that you want, you have to change something in order to get results that you do want.

I remember sitting in bars and clubs nights after night wishing that I could be with the women that I wanted in my life. One day, I decided that nothing was going to stop me and I was going to learn how to create successes with meeting women.

Since then, I've gone through a lot of hard work, testing things and doing stuff that doesn't work over and over again until I finally, one day, starting really seeing success with women and figured it all out.

I've gone through a lot and it took me several years to figure out. Luckily for you, you can learn the same things that I did in a fraction of the time. The information is there, you just have to go get it. Pick up a copy of my book, Date the Women of Your Dreams and get on your path to mastery with meeting and dating women.

About the Author

Matt Buschbacher teaches men all across the world how to meet and date women. He offers books, audio programs, seminars and workshops where he takes people into social venues and teaches them how to meet women. Visit his site at and download a free sample of his book as well as get other great information about women and dating that will cut years off of your learning process.

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